Welcome to The Hope of Survivors Pastors’ Wives’ Division.

What has just happened?

As pastors’ wives, most of us naturally expect our opportunity to share in our husband’s pastoral ministry to present an assortment of joys and challenges.

Yet few of us are prepared for that shared ministry to become stained or shattered by our husband’s choices to surrender to sin. We may find ourselves alone, blindsided, despairing, and isolated in bearing the agonizing knowledge and enduring the devastating effects of his compromised conduct.

What has he done? What is he doing? Whatever the specifics, his wrong-spirited actions make a mockery of his calling to be a shepherd! He may be abusing you or your children; he may have abused a member(s) of the congregation; he may be stealing funds from the church; he may have developed a substance addiction; he may have become unfaithful to you, including through porn; or he may be guilty of some other form of pastoral misconduct.

How could a pastor do that? How can he be like that?

Shockingly, recent statistics suggest that as many as 60% of pastors admit to having struggled with pornography. And these numbers reflect only one category of pastoral misconduct!

We fully recognize that all pastors are fallible human beings. However, we cannot enable, nor can we support, any course of action which shields any pastor from the appropriate consequences of his own pastoral misconduct.

We regret that we are no longer equipped to offer assistance; however, thankfully, now there are many other resources available for victims. Here are a few, regarding which we have heard good reports:

Our thoughts and prayers will be with you and we wish each one of you the very best in your journey going forward.

May we all cling to our Lord and Savior, and trust in Him always.